Monday, February 16, 2009

Love is an Action Verb!

I love you! These three words mean so much...some of the time. At other times, they can merely be hollow words with nothing evident in sight to back them up.

What they often mean is "I love you as long as I get that warm fuzzy feeling inside when I'm around you or when I think of you. Just don't ask me to demonstrate my love by asking too much of me."

When we equate love with internal feelings of bliss, it becomes dependent on our "loved" ones pleasing us on a consistent basis and asking very little in return. It's easy to feel "love" when it does not make many demands on us or our time.

Too often, we work harder to please relative strangers than those we say we "love." When we feel secure in our relationships, we tend to take them for granted and forget the importance of demonstrating our love on a day-to-day basis.

Love, in the truest sense of the word, is an action verb. We can say "I love you" and truly feel like we mean it, but the proof of our love is in our actions.

To see how our love stacks up in terms of action, we can ask ourselves these questions:

  1. How do I demonstrate my love through action?
  2. How do my loved ones experience my love?
  3. If I didn't say the words, could they tell by my actions that I love them?
  4. Do I demonstrate my love even when I don't feel "loving?"
  5. Do my loved ones have to please me to "feel" wrapped in my love?
  6. What actions from others do I experience as "loving?"
  7. Do I only show love when I am "feeling" loved?
  8. Who in my life demonstrates their love for me through their actions?
  9. Are there people in my life who say they love me without providing any evidence of this love other than mere words?
  10. What can I do differently to demonstrate my love?
  11. Do I show love for myself in my actions - even when I don't "feel" deserving of this love?

When we reflect on these questions, we can heighten our awareness of our own ability to put love into action- with others and with ourselves. We can DECIDE to love when we see it as an active force rather than merely a feeling. True love exists when our actions match our words!

Copyright 2009 by Holly Cox

Monday, January 26, 2009

New Beginnings!

January is the perfect "start-over" month. It marks the beginning of a new year, and we are filled with resolutions, hopes, and dreams. We feel like we once did in school when we started the year off with shiny new notebooks. We prepare ourselves to write the next chapter of our lives, and we are determined to make the story line fabulous. All too often, though, our notebooks gets dusty as we ditch our good intentions and lose sight of what we truly want. Then we find ourselves starting over again year after year.

It's time to try something new this year. We can make it the best year ever if we:
  1. refuse to make excuses
  2. stop tolerating the energy drainers in our lives
  3. focus on what we do want rather than on what we don't want
  4. listen to our hearts
  5. become champions for our dreams
  6. do something each day to move us toward our hearts' desires
  7. create habits that become effortless
  8. take baby steps
  9. keep trying UNTIL we get it right
  10. celebrate each small victory

Saturday, December 27, 2008

I Miss You Mom!


My 90-year-old mother, Marge, died on December 14th of this year. She lived a long, full life; but I still am having a hard time with the loss. Since she lived with me, she was so much a part of my day-to-day life. I miss talking to her and having coffee in the morning with her before leaving for work. I miss hearing her answer her phone with an "I love you too." (I had previously set her ring tone to "I just called to say I love you" by Stevie Wonder.) I miss her colorful vocabulary and her funny ways. I miss our shopping expeditions to Kohl's, Sam's Club, Walmart, and Value City. Most of all, I miss her love. She will always be with me - watching over me as my personal guardian angel.

I LOVE YOU TOO MOM!

Tuesday, November 25, 2008

Giving Thanks!

It's easy to remember to give thanks when things are going well. However, it's also important to have an attitude of gratitude even in the darkest of times. Whether your life is going extremely well or you're facing many challenges, take a moment to focus on the many people, things, and experiences that you've been blessed with through the years. Your list might include:


family and friends
just being alive
spirituality
your talents
your career
your home
your possessions
your pets
past vacations
favorite foods
nature
your physical abilities
music
art
beauty
chocolate
home movies
happy memories
great books
whatever else you can think of . . .

Sunday, November 16, 2008

The WOW Factor

Weekend Dressing - 5 Fashionable Ways to Make You Look Wow!

By Deborah E Boland

Just because you enjoy having a lazy weekend, doesn't mean you should get lazy about your style. If you're stuck in a style slump during your precious days off, then it's time for a little inspiration. Whether you wan to go out to dinner, see movie, or just hang out with friends, you deserve to look and feel fabulous, turn heads and get compliments! So here are 5 ideas for weekend dressing that are sure to make you look Wow!

1. Swap your jeans for a skirt
Yes it's the weekend, but why hide behind jeans just because they're easy and familiar? Instead try wearing something that will put a little swing into rest and relaxation time like a feminine flat yoke skirt with soft pleats. Pair your skirt with a cozy cashmere sweater to feel comfy, but still look chic. A pretty solid scarf in one of your favorite colors tied at the neck will punch up the look, or you can add some smart ballet flats by day, or sexy heels by night.

2. Be Bold in a Bright Jacket
Weekends are play time and what better way to send that message than to add a shot of color. The simplest, most up to the moment way to do that, is to wear a jacket bursting with color. This season we're seeing jackets in a deep rich rainbow of colors from burnt orange to plum, ruby red, teal blue and saffron. These emerald colors work really well with all neutrals, especially the new Grey which can be difficult and draining to wear. The key to making this look work is to buy a jacket that fits you absolutely perfectly. Fit is everything especially after 40 to help add structure to a softening body.

3. Play with Scarves
Wait, aren't scarves for old ladies? Depends on how you wear them. Scarves can be a great way to jazz up an otherwise ordinary outfit. Start with a crisp white blouse, unbutton the first few buttons and tie a long thin scarf a few times around your neck and knot it. Keep your blouse untucked and team it up with a pair of slim fit pants or jeans. Or, you can even try draping a large colorful scarf across a neutral top for a more dramatic weekend dressing look!

4. Knock'em Out in a Knit
If you don't have a knit top and matching pant or skirt in your weekend wardrobe, then fly out the door and pick one up! These outfits are casual but smart and are the perfect thing to wear shopping, to dinner or on a weekend getaway. Pair a knit skirt with opaque hose , boots or a pair of shoes with one of the new chunky heels.

5. Have Fun with Flat Boots
As the weather turns and the leaves begin to fall, flat riding boots are a great weekend dressing footwear choice. Rugged and Strong they look best paired with jeans or knit dresses plus opaque stockings. Be aware that your daughter's heavy Frye boots (yes they're back) can sometimes look too heavy on 40+ legs if so you may want to opt for a slightly finer version to achieve this look.

Deborah Boland and JoJami Tyler (The Glam Gals) are Image and Style Experts specializing in helping women 40 plus look and feel fabulous. They are the authors of the e-book, The Glam Plan~ 12 Simple Steps to Take You From Frumpy to Fabulous, as well as coaches for their Tweak Your Chic, Image make-over program. For more tips go to http://www.fabulousafter40.com and sign up for their bi-weekly newsletter. You can also contact them at: info@fabulousafter40.com

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Moments of Decision

Anthony Robbins once said, "It is in our moments of decision that our destinies are shaped." For me, these decisive moments make up the fabric of my days. When the alarm goes off, I can decide to hit snooze and roll over, or I can get out of bed and have a little more
time to get ready each morning. On the way to work, I can relax in quiet solitude, play my ipod music, or listen to personal growth audiobooks. The choice is mine. When I feel like eating emotionally in response to a "bad" day, I can remind myself that I want to nourish my body in a healthy way, or I can give in to the temptation of chips and dip. The quality of my future life depends on the decisions I make each and every day.

In order to shape my destiny, I must stay conscious of each tiny decision I face. Taking total ownership of my choices puts me in the driver's seat of my life. It's not always easy, but it's definitely worthwhile!

Copyright 2008 by Holly Cox, L.C.P.C., C.D.C.

Friday, November 14, 2008

I've been slacking!

Wow! I just noticed that my last post was on October 26th. The only justification I have is that my 90-year-old mother has been very sick. She just got out of the hospital, and since she lives with me I have been staying home taking care of her this past week. Watching her suffer rips my heart apart, and yet despite my own feelings of powerlessness I am in awe. She has been through so much this past year: shingles, kidney stones, several blood transfusions, congestive heart failure, weekly procrit shots, more kidney stones, lung problems, knees that don't work, reactions to medications, and so on. Despite her never-ending medical problems and her advanced years, she was still driving her car around town up until this past summer. At one point, she left the hospital after a week's stay due to a systemic infection prompted by her kidney stones and insisted on going with me to visit her grandson in Kentucky. Even now, as sick as she is, she lifts her tired head up to talk to me about plans (she loves to plan!) for my son and daughter-in-law's baby shower in March. She's so proud that she will be a great grandmother in April!

I have much to learn from her inner strength and resilience!

Sunday, October 26, 2008

Amazingly Fabulous Life - You Can Create It For Yourself!

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Thursday, October 23, 2008

Dream Big and Protect Your Dreams!

How To Protect Your Dreams
By Maureen O'Crean


We don't often hear people talk about the care and feeding of our dreams, but this is a very important component of bringing our dreams to fruition.


Do you recall ever hearing about an assignment that has been used in high schools where students are asked to carry a raw egg around for 24 hours and pretend that egg is a baby? This exercise gives people the opportunity to experience what it's like to have a very fragile being with them. Our nascent dreams are as fragile as that raw egg- or perhaps even more fragile. To me, a dream is akin to a soap bubble. Remember when we were little children and we blew bubbles with a wand and that bubble stood precariously on the end of that wand? That soap bubble is really a better metaphor for what our dreams are like.


Imagine you are walking through the world with that bubble. You can't protect it because if you touch it, it breaks. You can't cover it. There is nothing you can do to protect that bubble except carry it with a steady hand. I want you to imagine that bubble is your dream. What you have to do is protect yourself via the company you keep. That's one of the surest ways to protect your dream. You want to surround yourself with success thinkers. Make sure that you only share your dream with somebody who can hold it in their heart as carefully as you hold it in yours.


There are social agreements in the world whereby governments send delegates and decide to take action to protect the welfare of the entire planet. Sadly, there is very little social agreement for protecting individual dreams. You can see this manifested when you talk to people about your dreams. For instance, someone might say, 'Oh, well, that's nice but that's not possible. You might not have enough money. You might not have enough education. You don't know what you're doing.' Those individuals, while they mean well, are really dream stealer's. You want to make sure that you are not in the company of dream stealer's, but in the company of dream keepers.


It is also crucial to develop patterns of success. In The Magic of Thinking Big, Dr. David Schwartz outlines several success practices; for example, 'Be a front seater.' It's often said that the front seat is the million dollar seat if you're in school or at a lecture. By making a practice of taking a front seat, it shows you're not afraid to go to where the action is.


Another pattern related to success is making eye contact with people when you speak with them. I would challenge you today to go out in the world and watch how people speak to each other; most of the time you will see that a person's eyes are wandering when they are having a conversation. This indicates a lack of confidence, so you want to train yourself to look right in the eye of anyone you're speaking to, everyone.


Another success practice is walking 25% faster than you normally do because this gives you an air of confidence. And, once you have an air of confidence, anything can happen. It also changes your physiology when you walk a little bit faster than you normally do. The same is true about speaking up when you are talking. You want to speak forcefully and gently, but do speak up.


Another key behavior you can adopt is smiling more. When you smile, you change the chemistry in your body. You're happier and it's easier for people to like you. And being likable is 90% of getting anything accomplished. There is a 9 to 1 factor between likability and technical skills. So if you're in competition for anything-a job, a part in a play, anything you can think of-likability is 90% of it. If you don't like yourself, no one else will. So it's vitally important to work on liking ourselves.


I encourage you to keep your dreams alive and to surround yourself with people that support you. Protect your dreams by incorporating physical success practices that project an air of confidence.


Maureen O'Crean is a Harvard grad and an International Business strategist who supports others to have their dreams come true. An unconventional MBA, she works with authors, speakers, licensed professionals and entrepreneurs in the area of business growth and development. Maureen often uses publicity - http://www.mymediamatch.com/ - to put her clients in the public eye for visibility. She is a published author and creator of an online community of over 18,000 women. Recently featured in Entrepreneur Magazine where she profiled a client's success, Maureen is available for speaking, interviews and consultations on your business. Please contact her at 310-379-9620 or visit her website at http://www.maureenocrean.com/


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