Creating a dream-come-true life might sound like a fairy tale; however, it is possible if you go about it in the right way. It takes patience, determination, courage, and an extreme desire to succeed. If you really want to make life-altering changes, there are ten things you must do. Follow these suggestions, and you'll be well on your way to a total transformation.
- Make yourself a priority in your own life.
- Schedule weekly appointments with yourself.
- Live with intention.
- Eliminate the "stuff" that drains your energy.
- Get really clear about what you want your new life to look like.
- Spend time pursuing your passions.
- Take charge of your thinking.
- Become aware of the lessons you are teaching others.
- Create a "lesson plan" for changing your life and follow it, one step at a time.
- Enjoy the journey.
If you aren't the star of your own life, then who is? Putting your needs on the backburner while you take care of everyone else is a surefire way to burn out fast. You can't transform your life if you don't make time for yourself, and you won't make time for yourself if you come last on your list. Decide now to treat yourself as well as, if not better than, you do others. Transformation takes time, effort, and the belief that you are worth it!
Creating a dream-come-true life requires your time and attention. The only way to truly make time for yourself is to schedule it into your calendar. If you have time blocked out for yourself on paper, you can tell others that you have an appointment. They don't need to know who that appointment is with, unless you want to tell them. This will free you to place your attention on what really matters to you for a designated time each week.
You will either direct the course of your life, or it will direct you. Living with intention requires you to consciously choose the path you take each day. It can be as simple as planning your day before you get out of bed, or as complicated as writing out to-do lists to organize your life. The mere act of setting an intention improves your chance of success. You can intend to enjoy your day, eat in a healthy manner, relax, meditate, play, or accomplish something. With intention, you set the tone as to how you want to live your life.
This includes the things, people, and situations that clutter up your life, zap your enthusiasm, and generally take up a great degree of your attention. Start by making a list of these energy drainers, and then decide to cross them off your list a little bit at a time. As you de-clutter your life, be sure to take time to celebrate!
Take some time to journal about the areas of your life you want to transform. Cut out pictures from magazines, and paste them in a scrapbook. Paint a word picture for yourself until the changes feel like they are happening in the present moment. Flesh out your dreams with as many details as possible. In your dream-come-true life, where will you be living? What will you look like? Who will you be spending time with? How will you spend your time? Will you travel? If so, where will you go? You get the idea.
Since you don't know how much time you have on this earth, it's important to pursue your passions. What makes you feel truly alive? Maybe you love dancing, or reading, or learning. Find ways to fill your days and weeks with opportunities to explore as many areas of interest as possible. Plan to fill your transformed life with an abundance of the things you love.
You don't have to believe everything you think. Recognize that thoughts lie, and know that you are the author of your own story. If the current chapter doesn't work for you, begin to take it out into the light of day and question it. Could there be another, equally valid, story about the events in your life? Might someone else's story have merit? Were you born with your beliefs? If not, how did you learn them?
You teach others what to expect from you by the things you tolerate. If you are not happy with the reactions you get from people in your life, decide to start teaching some new lessons. Set boundaries, and stick to them. Say no when you feel like saying no. Be true to yourself, and eventually others will learn to respect your wants and needs.
The best way to get to any desired destination is to follow a road map. Creating a "lesson plan" for your transformation gives you a path to follow. You can design a weekly, monthly, and yearly plan outlining the action steps required for your journey. Once you have your plan in writing, intend to do something specific each day that will head you in the right direction. As you develop new habits, you will incorporate them into your life with ease.
Practice being mindfully present in each moment of your life. Stop and really see the beautiful things in front of your eyes. Smell the exquisite scents that come your way. Savor the flavor and texture of the food you put in your mouth. Notice the bodily sensations involved in moving on this earth. Take a nap. Get a massage. Write a letter to a friend. Bask in the sun. The world is yours to enjoy!
Copyright © 2008 by Holly Cox, L.C.P.C. C.D.C. ®
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